Why am I obsessed with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend?

[Dog]

Why am I obsessed with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend? I was together with my boyfriend for 8 months, before I broke up with him. We were separated for about 3 months. During this time, he made friends with this girl (she already had a boyfriend). They cuddled and did mushy stuff. They wrote each other cute love emails and things of that nature.

We got back together again, but the other girls kept calling him all the time to do stuff and she still wrote him those e-mails. This made me feel very uncomfortable, so I broke up with him again! Now she's calling even more than before!

After seeing my boyfriend, we decided to get back together again. He said he realized that the other girl was interfering too much in our relationship.

I still haven't aired things out with this other girl. She is constantly on my mind, and just the thought of her makes me angry! She is in my head constantly (even in my dreams!)

She has hurt me so much and I want justice!

Orignal post and reply here: http://www.askdog.com/2008/07/16/why-am-i-obsessed-with-my-boyfriends-ex-girlfriend/

[Tina]

Hey, I assume you're a little older than these guys give you credit for, not that it matters anyway. Right, so you like this guy but he is continuously being contacted by a girl that you know likes him, but what to do about it?

Well, you can't tell him to stop seeing her because that would be obsessive. Even if you are obsessive, it's probably for the best if you don't show him that side of you; maybe you could talk to her and ask her to stop trying to break up your relationship.

Chances are that if she is after him she will let you know in a bitchy fashion - use this response. Talk to your guy and say that you're not comfortable with her sending him so many 'couple-y' e-mails and that she said "blahblah I'm going to have him bitch etc." if that was indeed her response.

In the end, it might come to you asking him if he truly wants you and that if he does he'll have to choose and stop stringing you both along.

Remember it is important to be the perfect girlfriend in this hard time to stop him from going off you. If he doesn't want you anymore then it would appear as if he isn't suitable for you anyway; I'd have personal dumped his ass ages ago but it seems as if you really like him. Remember girl; make sure he is worth it.

Response from a 19-year-old university student so please no 'UMG my God you're so childish' replies please.